Someone
asked me the other day what it was that would make me happy in my life. I did not really know how to answer the
question at the time, I tried to analyze everything and try to figure out what
specific area they were asking about.
I never did answer the question.
This morning I woke up and realized what I wanted in life, well actually
to be able to put it into words at least.
First and foremost, I want God to be the center of my life. I want to be the woman He wants me to
be, I want to see the world through His loving eyes and be able to look at
people and see them the way He does. Reminds me of this song.
I want to be
a woman like this:
Proverbs 31
English
Standard Version (ESV)
The Words of King Lemuel
31 The words of King Lemuel. An oracle
that his mother taught him: 2 What
are you doing, my son? What
are you doing, son of my womb? What
are you doing, son of my vows? 3 Do
not give your strength to women, your ways to those who destroy kings. 4 It is
not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine, or for rulers to
take strong drink, 5 lest
they drink and forget what has been decreed and pervert the rights of all the
afflicted. 6 Give
strong drink to the one who is perishing, and wine to those in bitter distress;
7 let them drink and forget their poverty
and remember their misery no more.
8 Open your mouth for the mute, for the
rights of all who are destitute. 9 Open
your mouth, judge righteously, defend the rights of the poor and needy.
The Woman Who Fears the Lord
10 An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. 11 The
heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. 12 She
does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. 13 She
seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. 14 She
is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. 15 She
rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions
for her maidens. 16 She
considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a
vineyard. 17 She
dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. 18 She
perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. 19 She
puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. 20 She
opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. 21 She
is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in
scarlet. 22 She
makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. 23 Her
husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land. 24 She
makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant. 25 Strength
and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. 26 She
opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. 27 She
looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. 28 Her
children rise up and call her blessed; her
husband also, and he praises her: 29 “Many
women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” 30 Charm
is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. 31 Give
her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.
I want a man
whose first priority is God and I want to have a man that I mean everything
to. I want a man who loves me more
than himself. I want him to think
of me in every choice he makes and think of how it will affect me. I want him to value my opinion, ask for
my opinion and actually listen to it and take it to heart. I want a man who cooks meals for me
once in a while, who surprises me with a wonderful date night all planned out
and catered specifically to me. I
want a man who will bend over backward to make me happy because it makes him
happy to see me happy. I in turn
want to do everything in my power to make him happy, because I love seeing him
happy. I want a man who only has
eyes for me. A man who says I look
beautiful, not the next door neighbor, not the lady at the grocery store, or
gas station, ME and only ME. I
want him to only see me. I want
him to notice only me.
These are the
things that are needed.
- Constantly nourish the relationship.
- Preserving the individuality of the other person, what they are, their personality, and development
- Respect freedom of the other person.
- Kept are the engagements towards one another.
- Best friends.
- They have a flexible volume of positions of power at home and in the family.
So
let me make a few things perfectly clear:
- If you expect your wife to follow you blindly and unquestioningly, you’re being an idiot.
- If you expect your wife to respect you when you haven’t earned it, you’re being equally stupid.
- If you don’t respect your wife, you don’t deserve her respect in return.
- And don’t even think of telling her: “God has commanded you to respect me even if I don’ deserve it.”
God has called you, dear husband, to
sacrifice everything for your wife. It is your duty and honor to love, cherish,
defend, protect, uplift, serve, and otherwise give everything you’ve got for
her, second only to the Trinity Themselves. Show love and respect for your wife first, and she will be
more likely to return the favor.
Ephesians
5:25-30. 25 Husbands, love your
wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; 26
that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with
the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory,
having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and
blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own
bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his
own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also [does] the
church, 30 because we are members of His body.
I want that
kind of love.
I want a
house on 3-5 acres, with fruit trees, fruit bushes like strawberries,
blueberry, raspberry, blackberry, a stocked pond, a greenhouse, chickens, bees
and maybe rabbits, a wood burning fireplace, high speed internet, and working
toward self sufficiency and sustainability. I would love to be off the grid. I want to continue to homeschool my boys. I want to have a place where they can
play their instruments loudly and often.
I want to have a place where my boys can build stuff and tear stuff
apart. I want someone who wants
this too, to help me work it all and gather eggs with me in the morning, To sit
by the fire pit outside and drink homebrewed wine and honey mead and stare at
the stars together, Someone to make love with by the fire pit under the
stars. I want to live close enough
to civilization to easily get the things we need but far enough away to be able
to have quiet and peace.
I want good
health and long life and laughter.
I want a simple life enjoying the fruit of our labor. I want to help other people. Help them be happy, help them learn new
skills, help them be the best them they can be.